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Judy Croome: Author on the Prowl

Judy Croome lives, writes and reads in Johannesburg, South Africa.  A novelist & poet, Judy loves cats, exploring the meaning of life, chocolate, rainy days and cats (who already appear to have discovered the meaning of life.) Visit Judy on www.judycroome.com or join her on Twitter @judy_croome

Elder Rage, or Take My Father... Please! How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents - Jacqueline Marcell, Rodman Shankle My father had stroke induced vascular dementia for over 8 years, leaving us devastated at his mental and personality loss long before we lost him physically to death in February 2012. My mother and I were his primary care-givers through all the inexorable changes in his behaviour that this disease afflicts on its sufferers over the long, painful years. At the time I read ELDER RAGE, I approached it as a reader with a sincere desire to be helped through what was a sad and heart-breaking experience for my family and I.

I could not finish ELDER RAGE as I found the humour banal and the endless song references irritating.

I also could not relate to the relationship between the author and her father. I was searching for spiritual and emotional guidance on how to cope with the difficulties of care-giving for my Father, as his mental, physical and emotional deterioration took a heavy toll as we had always been privileged to have the most wonderful, gentle and loving man as a Father.

ELDER RAGE did not provide me with anything that I needed or required from a text on caregiving for the elderly.

If you are looking for a wise and compassionate book that sensitively guides you through a similar caregiving experience, I'd highly recommend another book called "SO FAR AWAY: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss and Love" by Dr Christine W Hartmann So Far Away: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss, and Love

Another excellent book which provides spiritual guidance for a person in a caregiving role is "BEING WITH DYING: Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death" by Dr Joan Halifax Being with Dying: Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death)

A delightfully funny and compassionate book about care giving for the elderly is "THE SELFISH PIG'S GUIDE TO CARING" by Hugh Marriott The Selfish Pig's Guide to Caring

DISCLAIMER: I have no connection, affiliation or association whatsoever with the authors of the alternative books I recommend, other than as a reader who discovered an author whose book provided me with immense comfort during a difficult time in my life. I end my review of ELDER RAGE by recommending these books as alternatives for other readers who are looking for more positive, compassionate and spiritual reads than ELDER RAGE provided me.