My father had stroke induced vascular dementia for over 8 years, leaving us devastated at his mental and personality loss long before we lost him physically to death in February 2012. My mother and I were his primary care-givers through all the inexorable changes in his behaviour that this disease afflicts on its sufferers over the long, painful years. At the time I read ELDER RAGE, I approached it as a reader with a sincere desire to be helped through what was a sad and heart-breaking experience for my family and I.
I could not finish ELDER RAGE as I found the humour banal and the endless song references irritating.
I also could not relate to the relationship between the author and her father. I was searching for spiritual and emotional guidance on how to cope with the difficulties of care-giving for my Father, as his mental, physical and emotional deterioration took a heavy toll as we had always been privileged to have the most wonderful, gentle and loving man as a Father.
ELDER RAGE did not provide me with anything that I needed or required from a text on caregiving for the elderly.
If you are looking for a wise and compassionate book that sensitively guides you through a similar caregiving experience, I'd highly recommend another book called "SO FAR AWAY: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss and Love" by Dr Christine W Hartmann So Far Away: A Daughter's Memoir of Life, Loss, and Love
Another excellent book which provides spiritual guidance for a person in a caregiving role is "BEING WITH DYING: Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death" by Dr Joan Halifax Being with Dying: Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death)
A delightfully funny and compassionate book about care giving for the elderly is "THE SELFISH PIG'S GUIDE TO CARING" by Hugh Marriott The Selfish Pig's Guide to Caring
DISCLAIMER: I have no connection, affiliation or association whatsoever with the authors of the alternative books I recommend, other than as a reader who discovered an author whose book provided me with immense comfort during a difficult time in my life. I end my review of ELDER RAGE by recommending these books as alternatives for other readers who are looking for more positive, compassionate and spiritual reads than ELDER RAGE provided me.